The subtle assumption behind a date is that he and she know each other a little, but not too much. There has to be enough knowledge of the other to provide a basis for fantasy, yet not so much knowledge as to crowd out fantasy altogether. Somewhere in between there is a delicious just-rightness in which each feeds the fantasies of the other, bringing the date alive with the possibilities of intimacy, of romance, of sex and of love (not necessarily in that order).
Posts Tagged ‘victim’
Dating
Posted in depression, For patients, For therapists, Review, UK, tagged Freud, mental health, mental illness, recovery, victim on October 18, 2010 | 2 Comments »
Wisdom
Posted in CBT, depression, For patients, For therapists, Review, Techniques, UK, tagged CBT, emotion, feelings, mental health, mental illness, psychiatry, psychotherapy, recovery, relationships, therapy, victim on July 14, 2010 | 1 Comment »
There was a psychiatrist (now retired) whose referrals for psychotherapy would include helpful advice about how CBT treatment should proceed. Alas, this psychiatrist had only the vaguest idea about how CBT works, and the advice invariably missed the point.
Anon.
Posted in CBT, For therapists, Review, Techniques, UK, tagged anonymity, blogging, Carl Rogers, CBT, conguence, counseling, counselling, delusion, entrapment, HPC, identity, mental health, mental illness, paradox, psychodynamic, psychotherapy, R.D. Laing, reality, terminology, therapy, UKCP, victim on October 24, 2009 | 8 Comments »
Ever since I started writing here, I have thought of myself as an anonymous blogger. That’s not the case at all, it turns out, as two separate things that happened to me last week revealed. The two experiences illuminated opposite sides of what it means to have an identity, and why identity is important for psychotherapists.
Hot babes
Posted in For patients, For therapists, Review, Techniques, tagged case study, counseling, counselling, emotion, feelings, love, mental health, mental illness, psychodynamic, psychology, psychotherapy, punishment, reward, seduction, therapy, transference, victim on October 13, 2009 | 6 Comments »
For all these years I’ve been lacking the most important skills to succeed with hot women. In fact, I’ve been acting like a BNB (‘boring nervous bonehead’) around them. But now, at last, I’ve discovered how to get sex with hot babes.
Cake
Posted in For patients, For therapists, Review, Techniques, tagged amnesia, case study, CBT, childhood, counseling, counselling, detachment, distress, entrapment, escape, family, feelings, Freud, koan, love, mental health, mental illness, paradox, proverb, psychiatry, psychodynamic, psychology, psychotherapy, reality, schizophrenia, therapy, transference, victim, zen on October 10, 2009 | 1 Comment »
According to the proverb:
You can’t have your cake and eat it.
According to another proverb:
There’s no such word as “can’t”.
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